Hanging out vs. Going on Dates
Have you ever noticed how 'hanging out' is becoming the norm rather than taking a person on a date? Sadly, dates are becoming fewer or being over-thought and over-committal than a date should be. Millennials are shifting away from going on dates and turning towards hanging out in order to get to know people more before deciding whether or not to date them. Why is it so hard to ask someone on a date and go have an enjoyable evening together? So starting from the basics, how do you find a person whom you are interesting in taking on a date?
For many people it is hard to actually find a date and we may only have certain places that allow us the opportunity to meet new people we could consider dating. Whether this be in the workplace, at a university, in a study group, etc. There can be so many different opportunities to meet new people and take someone on a date. With social media, television, and other sources, we are being led to believe that going on a date is a huge commitment and you truly have to be interested in the person to even consider taking them on a date. The other thing we learn from social media is that we have to spend a lot of time truly getting to know them before we take them on a date so we know exactly how they act in every situation. For example, the TV show 'Friends' gives us the idea that we need to spend as much time with them in a 'hanging out' situation. For this reason, people postpone marriage and spend their time becoming friends with as many people as they can before even thinking about going on a date with that person. Why do people do this?
Going on dates gives you a one-on-one opportunity to truly get to know someone. You just have more chances to talk and get to know their personality rather than in a group setting you can only speak if you are near each other at one point. Hanging out lets you only have a small time actually together and in that short amount of time you don't get to talk to people the same as a one-on-one.
We also have grown as a generation to think that dates need to be very long and lots of money. This view of dates has changed increasingly rather than just going on an inexpensive date where you do something fun and gives you lots of time to feel like you know the person you are on a date with. So why do we feel the need to have hour long dates where we spend loads of money? Do we feel like we have to impress them? Do we want them to know that we are interested so there is a better chance at a second date? Millennials over-think a date and jump to conclusions during a date which has completely changed our dating culture through the years. If we start working individually on our own personal dating culture and how we view dates, we can start to change the way everyone goes on dates!
For many people it is hard to actually find a date and we may only have certain places that allow us the opportunity to meet new people we could consider dating. Whether this be in the workplace, at a university, in a study group, etc. There can be so many different opportunities to meet new people and take someone on a date. With social media, television, and other sources, we are being led to believe that going on a date is a huge commitment and you truly have to be interested in the person to even consider taking them on a date. The other thing we learn from social media is that we have to spend a lot of time truly getting to know them before we take them on a date so we know exactly how they act in every situation. For example, the TV show 'Friends' gives us the idea that we need to spend as much time with them in a 'hanging out' situation. For this reason, people postpone marriage and spend their time becoming friends with as many people as they can before even thinking about going on a date with that person. Why do people do this?
Going on dates gives you a one-on-one opportunity to truly get to know someone. You just have more chances to talk and get to know their personality rather than in a group setting you can only speak if you are near each other at one point. Hanging out lets you only have a small time actually together and in that short amount of time you don't get to talk to people the same as a one-on-one.
We also have grown as a generation to think that dates need to be very long and lots of money. This view of dates has changed increasingly rather than just going on an inexpensive date where you do something fun and gives you lots of time to feel like you know the person you are on a date with. So why do we feel the need to have hour long dates where we spend loads of money? Do we feel like we have to impress them? Do we want them to know that we are interested so there is a better chance at a second date? Millennials over-think a date and jump to conclusions during a date which has completely changed our dating culture through the years. If we start working individually on our own personal dating culture and how we view dates, we can start to change the way everyone goes on dates!
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